To be honest marriage doesn’t look like this in real life. Pictures such as this and life on instagram are only instant moments capturing a fortunate situation. It’s not always love, happiness and sunshine in our house. We fight a lot. We hurt each other. We have arguments. What keeps us together is, whatever the reason, we forgive each other. Trying to impose your opinion is only gonna push someone further away. We remind ourselves that we are two different individuals, with totally two different upbringing and two different backgrounds. You cannot just assume the other one is gonna put their past life away for you or change their priorities just because you are married now.
It is like cultivating a new plant. You need to nourish it, water it, clean it and change the pot time to time. That can be applied to marriage as well. You should take time for each other, go for a fancy dinner. A cozy candlelight dinner at home will do the same magic. Wear some nice dress, write each other sweet notes as you did when you started dating. You only know what makes your love the happiest man/ woman alive. Fighting or arguing is not wrong but always choose forgiveness and love. No argument or fight is worth compromising your marriage life and happiness.
Choose forgiveness, love and a little bit of empathy every day. Above all put your trust in God. We love because He first loved us.
Deborah Mary S. 